If you are experiencing fertility issues, the festive season can sometimes feel like yet another struggle to get through.
There is no doubt that a lot of festive marketing is geared around happy families and children, and when that is all you want for Christmas and it hasn’t happened yet, it can be difficult. Here are a few tips that may help you through the next couple of weeks.
Put Yourself First
If you are feeling a little overwhelmed by the festive season, don’t pretend nothing is wrong, share your thoughts with your partner or a friend, and with their support you will find it easier to minimise stress. Consider giving yourself a little time out from thinking about your fertility. Perhaps refocus your mind and energy during this time on a new hobby, project or holiday. Importantly, take the time to relax: for example, visit the beach, have a massage or beauty treatment, read a book, watch a sunset, go to the movies or theatre, or get among nature and just breathe.
Planning can Help
If you are feeling anxious, it is wise to plan for social occasions. Have a short and simple response prepared to questions you are expecting to be asked. You don’t have to accept every invitation. If you feel the need to do something differently this year you can. Realise that others may not understand your situation and that you may be feeling physically and emotionally drained as well, so take care of yourself.
Consider Helping Others
Sometimes helping others can give you just the boost you need, and refocus your thoughts and energy for a while. Many people are feeling vulnerable for a range of reasons at this time of year and need help. Consider volunteering in a homeless shelter, nursing home, soup kitchen, hospital, an RSPCA site, a special-needs centre, food bank or donating Christmas gifts to charities.
Remember: you are not Alone
It is estimated that one in six couples experience fertility issues at some point, so there are many others going through the festive season in your situation too. If it helps, try to connect with someone who is sharing the same issues as you are, whether in person or through forums or support groups. Remember to seek professional help if you feel you need it, as this is the first step in taking control of your situation. Specially trained fertility counsellors can offer experience and support.
Christmas will be Over Soon
Remember: Christmas only lasts a few weeks and the new year will be upon us all before we know it, offering new hope, new joy and hopefully new beginnings.
City Fertility Centre looks forward to continuing to provide you with excellent medical care and an individualised, warm and compassionate approach to help you realise your dreams of having a baby in 2016.
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